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of release at Thesaurus.com. ... Synonyms : acquit, bleach, blink
at, clear, clear excuse, discharge, exculpate, exempt, exonerate, forgive , free
APOLOGY - Meaning and Definition of the Word
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Forgiveness vs reconciliation
"Mediation and the Healing Journey Toward
In the victims' journey the first step is usually denial. Victims
try to minimize the offense and look for what they did wrong to cause it. Mediation does not usually happen at this stage,
but even if it does, it is not effective. Victims quickly accept an apology and the offenders do not experience much guilt
and might repeat the offense. The next four stages the author adapts from Lewis B. Smedes' book, Forgive and Forget.
The second stage is hurting. The victims acknowledge the offense and feel the pain. The victims will easily agree to
meet with offenders during the mediation session, but only because they feel that an apology will bring a release from the
emotional distress. Anger is the next step on the way to forgiveness. The victims realize the harm that the offense
imposed upon them. The suggestion for mediators is to be patient and allow not just one meeting, but two or more to let the
victim(s) analyze the information and move beyond the anger stage. The intervenor should understand the destructive
force of the victims' anger against the offenders, but encourage the anger against the offense.
As with the victims, the offense has control over the offenders' lives as well. Thus offenders, too, must go through a
healing process. The offenders' first stage is denial. Mediation can be harmful for the victims at this stage, since
the offenders do not acknowledge their wrongdoings. However, the transition to the next stage might take years, or may never
happen. When progress is made, the second stage, remorse, begins. The offenders admit their deeds but tend to concentrate
on the circumstances that "led" them to commit the offense. They are looking for excuses. The role of the mediator is to encourage
them to listen the victims' stories. Repentance happens when the offenders fully recognize the harm they have done
and experience pain from the victims' suffering. Mediators should strive to bring offenders to that stage. The healing process
will be successful when the offender authentically asks for forgiveness.
Forgiveness Therapy: Healing the Wrongs, F101.:
A. Acknowledge your guilt in contributing to the clearly identified specific offense(s).
b. Consider the offended person's perspective.
Try to understand his/her attitude and behavior. c. Declare your apology and sorrow for the hurt you caused. Say "I am sorry for..."
forgiveness vs. reconciliation vs. pardon
Living Authentically in a Masked world, by Delores Williams